Let’s face it, mom life is equal parts rewarding and exhausting. There are days when we feel like superheroes, juggling endless responsibilities with ease. And then, there are the "off" days—those moments when everything feels heavier, the to-do list feels endless, and we question if we're doing enough.
Here’s the truth: you are enough. Those "off" days are part of the journey, and how you navigate them can make all the difference—not just for you, but for your family too.
1. Recognize the Feeling (and Let Go of Guilt)
First, acknowledge that it’s okay to not be at your best every single day. No one expects you to be perfect (even though it can feel like you have to be). Whether it’s a lack of sleep, the chaos of motherhood, or just the weight of life catching up, remind yourself that having an "off" day doesn’t mean you’re failing—it means you’re human.
Let go of guilt. Say it with me: It’s okay to pause. You’re teaching your children a valuable lesson by showing them it’s normal to have hard days and take care of yourself.
2. Take a Step Back
When everything feels overwhelming, it’s time to hit pause. Take a step back and assess what really needs to be done today versus what can wait. The dishes can sit in the sink a little longer. The laundry will still be there tomorrow. Focus on the essentials: keeping everyone safe, fed, and loved.
If possible, ask for help. Whether it’s your partner, a family member, or a friend, reaching out doesn’t make you weak; it makes you wise. Leaning on your village is part of what makes motherhood sustainable.
3. Give Yourself Grace
Speak to yourself the way you would a friend. If your best friend confided that she was feeling overwhelmed, you wouldn’t tell her to just "push through it." You’d encourage her to rest, remind her of her worth, and assure her that she’s doing a great job. So why not offer that same kindness to yourself?
Grace means allowing space for imperfection. It’s forgiving yourself for forgetting the soccer snack or not being Pinterest-perfect. Remember, your children don’t need a perfect mom—they need you.
4. Prioritize Self-Care
You’ve likely heard the saying, “You can’t pour from an empty cup,” and it’s true. Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish—it’s necessary.
Self-care looks different for everyone. Maybe it’s sneaking in a quiet moment with your favorite candle burning (might I recommend something calming like lavender or eucalyptus?), taking a long bath, going for a walk, or even locking the bathroom door and taking a deep breath. The key is to find small, meaningful ways to refill your cup.
Don’t underestimate the power of setting boundaries, even with your family. Let your loved ones know when you need time to reset, and trust that it’s okay to take it.
5. Celebrate the Little Wins
At the end of an "off" day, shift your focus to the positives. Maybe you didn’t fold the laundry, but you cuddled on the couch with your little one. Maybe dinner was takeout, but everyone was fed. Those small victories add up, and they’re just as meaningful as the big milestones.
Final Thoughts
Motherhood is a journey of highs and lows, and every mom has "off" days. The important thing is how you respond to them—with grace, self-compassion, and a commitment to your well-being.
By taking a step back, giving yourself grace, and making time for self-care, you’re not just surviving those tough moments—you’re thriving. You’re showing your children that it’s okay to prioritize mental health and that even on hard days, love and resilience shine through.
So, the next time you feel overwhelmed, light your favorite candle, take a deep breath, and remind yourself: you’re doing an incredible job, and tomorrow is a fresh start.
You’ve got this, mama. 💛
XOXO, Mikayla